no say when you are stuck in a hole

people say things sometimes like "well, be with him" but really do we have any say in those issues? i say no. i have no control over how you feel and i honestly have very little over what i feel. I always feel something that you do not and i have no say in what happens next. guys want a girl to show interest but when a girl is interested and they guy only pretends to be how in the world should the girl know? how in the world would the girl know the guy doesnt want something, the girl just digs her self in to a hole and then when the guy tells her he love to flirt but thats all it is the girl is stuck in the hole.... alone...... and hurt that there is no one to help her out..... but even more so hurt that there is no one else in the hole with her. no one willing to be in the hole, willing to spend time with her and give her a shot at being more then the flirt.